Monday, April 23, 2007

"Satisfaction with life scale" from Oprah

Warming up for another night's work, and the first night of recovering (or devastating, whatever) from an ache, I took this happiness quiz from Oprah. And here's what I got:
Your total score: 17

I put some texts in bold, texts to live by for the next days, next months, next years - next-who-knows-until-when.... More from Oprah:

If you scored 15 or under, you are dissatisfied with your life. If you scored 31 or higher, you are extremely satisfied with your life.

If you scored somewhere in the middle, happiness expert Dr. Robert Holden has some advice on how to live a more satisfying life. Dr. Holden says the key to being happy is overcoming "destination addiction," which he defines as "living in the not-now."

"It's always about tomorrow, so you're chasing 'more,' 'next' and 'there,'" he says. "You promise yourself that when you get there, you'll be happy. And I promise you, you won't, because you'll always set another destination to go for."

Instead, Dr. Holden says if you are unhappy with your life or looking to improve your score, there are two things you can do. "We have to learn to let go of our past, we have to give up all hopes for a perfect past. Let the past go, it's gone." After that, he says, "Take a vow of kindness. Be kinder to yourself and to others."

"It's never too late to be happy," he says.

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"It's never too late to be happy." Yes - until you forget the "past".... Sorry, kind of cryptic here. Now to work.

Friday, April 13, 2007

I'm not Wonder Woman, y'know


That's how an old friend (literally old, hehe) calls me - because, he says, kaya ko ayusin ang mga bagay-bagay, especially when I'm very proud telling him stories of how I did "wonders," even saving males in distress (ehem). And my name spells like that of Wonder Woman star, Lynda Carter (initials, L.C. - same really, hehe), he further points out.

Yes. I sometimes feel like Wonder Woman. Not that I look like the screen goddess Lynda Carter, (she's beautiful! I'm only cute!!!). Why I think I'm Wonder Woman? Because I sometimes can do wonders, made possible through other's help.

But most of the time, I'm just plain, cute Lynda. I don't have the power to save people, to pull things off, or produce miracles. Like those are only contained in the 70s TV series' theme, "make a hawk a dove, stop a war with love, make a liar tell the truth, stop a bullet cold, make the Axis fall, change their minds, and change the world." Only Lynda Carter's character can do those. Not me.

And lately, I feel I can't do, or subconsciously, refuse to do wonders. My power's down. My magic's waning. I don't feel like saving the world in my own little way.

And to borrow from Carter's line in the 2005 movie Sky High, (where she played Principal Powers, th head of superheroes' school), "...I can't do anything more to help you. I'm not Wonder Woman, y'know."

But earlier this Friday the 13th, I felt my power's recharged, my magic's increased, and I was ready to save the world - well, my world, at least, and really glad to those who helped.

Not only I must have that drive to fulfill the task (work-related obviously), but I got happy with myself because the persistence, charm, brilliance that some people associate with me - I felt all those working earlier. I thought I was losing or already lost those qualities (if I really have them) in the past days. But I felt them earlier. They're real.

After friends and Lynda Cute (hehe, braggart) saved the day (well, the task's culmination is up to next days, so, still, wish us luck), my aching feet knew were they're headed - to His house. Settling there, I thanked Him, through his illuminated image displayed to those seeking guidance, help, and protection, like I. Hope I sincerely thanked those who helped me this Friday the 13th.

I'm tired today. But I'm fulfilled. I feel I accomplished a huge task where in fact that was just a small feat. And when small feats are carried out well, they feel like huge jobs well done, even without others commending you for such achievement.

I know the Wonder Woman in me is still here. Maybe she needs some time off, which she will have to avail soonest or else risk early retirement. And for Lynda Cute to still be Wonder Woman in the next busy-busy days, vitamins lang katapat ko.
But for now, as my old friend's parting shot to me, "OK, Wonder Woman, the world's waiting for you."