Friday, October 28, 2016

"I am"

I AM. In this book, Pastor Joel Osteen espouses that our attitude and what we tell ourselves determines our future. Photo from

I am a failure.

I am a loser.

I am hopeless.


Those negative phrases sum up the  roller coaster of emotions I was feeling about two months ago.

I was feeling that no matter how I did good, all the bad things happened to me.

That no matter how I tried to be good to people, these people stabbed me with  me all their bull**** because I am simply being me, I am simply doing a damn good job.

Until I wrote on my journal one day toward the end of September that ENOUGH.

Enough of tears, enough of negativity.

I have had enough of aloofness; anger; depression; loneliness.

That I wish myself peace because I truly deserve it.

And let fate determine what happens to those who maligned me.


Look, I still have my issues.

But I have chosen to look into them in a better light.

I do not deny their existence.

I have acknowledged them and have shown them that my faith, my attitude are bigger than them.

And soonest, these issues will be resolved because they are shown who is the boss.


And coming across Pastor Joel Osteen's book, "The Power of I Am" reinforced that attitude change I am employing now.

The "Queen of TV Talk" Oprah said that Osteen's sermon on the power of "I Am" changed how she viewed her life.

I watched that sermon the other day and here are my 24 key takeaways:

  1. The "I Am's" coming out of your mouth will determine your success or failure
  2. What follows "I Am" will always come looking for you (ex. If you say "I am rich" then abundance will follow you)
  3. Get up in the morning and invite good things into your life
  4. A lot has to do with your attitude
  5. You should never put yourself down
  6. Take what you have and make the most out of it
  7. Nothing about you is an accident
  8. There is nothing ordinary about you
  9. Have a quiet confidence
  10. You have something to offer this world
  11. You got to shake off the negative things people say about you
  12. Quit telling yourself you are all washed up
  13. When you have the "right I Am's" you are inviting the goodness of God
  14. With your words you can bless or curse your future
  15. It is up to you to choose what follows the "I Am"
  16. Never say negative things about yourself
  17. Do not be against yourself
  18. What others say about you does not determine your destiny
  19. God stamped his approval on you
  20.  Do not give intimidation an invitation
  21. Change your "I Am"
  22. Make sure you have the right "I Am" come out of your mouth
  23. You have to call the things when they are not as if they are already were
  24. Invite the right things in your life

The power of "I Am"

So, being kinder to ourselves will do us more good.

Having the right attitude matters.

Let us stop beating ourselves as if everything is our fault.

We did our very best at a given situation.

And as Osteen quoted Numbers 14:28, "So tell them, ‘As surely as I live, declares the LORD, I will do to you the very thing I heard you say."

So let us change our "I Am's" to (the following "I Am's" also from the sermon):

  • I am amazing.
  • I am anointed.
  • I am blessed.
  • I am created in the image of Almighty God.
  • I am crowned with favor.
  • I am excited about my future.
  • I am getting better and better.
  • I am hand-picked by God.
  • I am healthy.
  • I am improving. 
  • I am a masterpiece.
  • I am one-of-a-kind.
  • I am surrounded by God's favors.
  • I am talented.
  • I am wonderfully made.
  • I am valuable.
  • I am victorious.

So, I am counting on you --- that we invite the right things into our lives and see things improve for the better.

Friday, October 21, 2016

What’s your purpose in life?

Have you ever thought about what is your purpose in life?

Beyond your career, financial, health and wellness, or relationship goal?

Leadership speaker and author John C. Maxwell conducted a free 1-hour webinar on the topic “discovering your purpose” on October 4. And here, he expounded better on why we should live a purposeful life daily.

Here are the lessons I learned from the webinar:

Be intentional

Maxwell said that having a purpose is essential to one’s life. That once we learn to be intentional with our life, and then live our purpose, “we can be an every day purpose person,” (sounds similar to purpose-driven life that Rick Warren espouses).

And how to find our purpose? He said there are two ways:

  1. Through passion – the fuel that keeps us going uphill
  2. Through giftedness – which determines how high uphill we can climb

“If you’re going to find your purpose and live it out, you have to not only ask yourself, ‘What am I passionate about?’ You have to ask yourself, ‘What am I gifted in? What do I do well?’”

And on he went that when we find our purpose, we find our why. And that instead asking “why?” ask “why not?” as this opens a floodgate of opportunities.

And that when we find our why, we find our way.

Be better

Explaining further on discovering our purpose, Maxwell said that everything worthwhile in life is uphill, and that our purpose will give us the reason to go uphill.

And that in the course of finding our purpose, we have to answer three questions:

  1. What do I sing about?
  2. What do I cry about?
  3. What do I dream about?

Maxwell said he sings about unleashing the talent of his team. “The greatest singers are those preparing to give value to others,” he said.

And that giving value to others must be done consistently, as “leadership or influence is being able, day-in, day-out to be consistent in adding value to people.”

As for “crying,” he also underscored the importance of spending our energy on worthwhile things, and that sometimes, it is necessary to unload passengers “as you don’t want everybody on your train.”

And if your dream is only big enough for you, it is not then big enough to include others. “I gotta get better to help you get better,” he said.

And once that we know that our purpose is about intentionally adding value to people, we will begin to:

  1. Think things that average people don’t think
  2. Do things that average people don’t do
  3. Reap results that average people don’t reap

Every day with purpose

That one-hour webinar reinforced my conviction of revisiting the life I am living.

And I have a long way to go to distinguish between achieving my goal versus living a life of purpose.

For such dilemma I have, Maxwell offered his 30-day, self-improvement program (which I am still contemplating whether to avail of or not; mainly because I need to prioritize now which learning I really must spend money on).

But for those interested to dig more about living a life with a purpose, then visit Maxwell’s site.

But for my key takeaway, it is this: I gotta get better to help you get better.

Friday, October 14, 2016

When I ask for help ...

... It means I really, really, really need help.

That is why it pains me to be be turned down, to be advised, to be served a sermon when all I asked was help. Especially from someone I helped.

It is sickening. When I went out of my way to help, and when it is me who is in need, and I asked for help, it seemed that no one was there.

No one wanted to make time when I gave my time.

And  I thought there were angels out there to help me, when I was being an angel to them.

Very good thing I am self-reliant. And I am independent.

But yes, on occasions, I do need help. And rarely that I ask for help.

I know I should not expect something in return for all I  have done. I simply cannot understand though why there are people like me (and I am sure a lot more have done great deeds than mine) who were refused help when they did not hesitate to help though.

Lesson learned: I have to be more self-reliant. More independent.

And yes, I will continue to help. But I will be more careful to let no one abuse my generosity, kindness, time. As there are many others out there who truly need help and really appreciate you helping them.

I cannot always be helping, rescuing others. I need to help, rescue me first. Topmost.

Well, there, my adulting lesson for the week.

Friday, October 07, 2016

5 activities I do to keep myself sane

JOURNAL. As in, really journaling, ala Bridget Jones of rambling thoughts here, for things I deemed not for trolls to pry on online. Cut outs from Papemelroti; shoe stickers from Melissa Philippines; ruled notebook from Miquelrius bought from FullyBooked 

Too much time allows unwanted thoughts to creep into me, thus I keep myself busy if I got no work to do (as I am a Communications Consultant now, and I do not work that often, lucky in that respect).

Of course, there were times I sulk or veg out. But when I feel like going out, and just by myself, I usually do the following (including eating out, mostly sweets and cups of coffee):

Watch movies. The season of anticipated blockbusters just hit right when I have time to watch some of these flicks. The latest I watched was Bridget Jones's Baby (not as good as Bridget Jones's Diary but way better than Bridget Jones: The Edge of Reason). I somehow can identify with Ms. Jones's character, and the dream of having a Mark Darcy, oh my! Just losing yourself, letting go of your worries in about two hours or so is a welcome respite, especially seeing your heroes and heroines on screen solving their problems --- that, in a way, can give you the drive to continue.

Read books. Super happy I get to read more books these days (as I have a dozen or more unread titles in my bookshelf; on my study table in my room; on this office table I am using now; plus those purchased in the past two months; and the e-books on my Kindle app in my old iPad 2). Reading books is a great escape, and a way to learn more, whether it is fiction or non-fiction. The last I read was a self-help one, Teach Yourself Body Language --- I have become pretty good in deciphering body language, and I am also conscious of the body language I am showing, but still not bad to know more, especially dealing with high-powered people, thus this slim tome. My favorite reads lately, and have affected me in a great way were Kafka on the Shore by Haruki Murakami (too depressing, too dark, some points hit close to home) and Bossypants by Tina Fey (which I finished in about eight hours, and it was funny and inspiring, a no-bull shit leadership reading for women). There were some titles I started reading, but have not continued yet. Eventually, I will finish reading them all.

Update my daily, weekly planners. I was neglecting my planners (using Starbucks + Moleskine green weekly and red daily planners). When I was so busy at work, I was barely using these. Now, they are pretty filled with my to do's and (checked them once done), appointments, dates, etc., and I am mastering the bullet journaling method with these. Not sure though if I would get a Starbucks planner this year (I got mine because it was an office exchange gift, and one was a gift from Starbucks Philippines itself).

Start a journal (pictured above). Yes, as in journaling hard core. Running three to four pages for a single rant or musing. That kind of longhand writing. I pimped up mine (see the crafty cut outs and shoe stickers) then started writing (with my trusty Cartier heart-shaped charm pink lacq ballpen). I always carry my Miquelrius journal with me (even if it is thick) and as long as I get settled in a coffee shop usually, I open it and start journaling.  I get frustrated though every time I misspelled a word or my handwriting is so loopy (I am not blessed with a very good penmanship, the joke is those who would try to steal my interview notebook would have a hard time deciphering what I wrote because my writing looks like hieroglyphics!) And I came across the "ritual" called morning pages, "three pages of longhand, stream of consciousness writing, done first thing in the morning." It is almost what I am doing, except I write when I feel like it (and lately four times a day max). And I am not exactly a morning person so this will be challenging, but I will try and let you know.

LIKE A KID. I draw to my hear's content in this "art" journal --- never mind if I suck at drawing! 

Get into drawing; adult coloring books. Not blessed also with a talent in drawing (my youngest brother is very good at it), but what the hell, I sure can do a damn good job in coloring drawings! I now have this separate art journal (got the idea from Samantha Dion Baker's Instagram account), and draw there (using Artline 0.6 drawing pen and Faber-Castell color pencils) whenever I feel like it, mostly my aspirations, my "visions" of blessings I like to attract and achieve (see above). I also returned to my adult coloring books again (one is a book on desserts, the other Art Nouveau fashion --- the latter too elaborate and difficult to color!) But one must finish what she has started, right? Right.

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So there. My "alone time" activities that keep my mind going and the creative juices flowing.

So if you feel like stuck in a rut, pick an activity (a healthy, positive one, please) to do, and complete it. It will allow you to refocus, to rebalance your energies, and take your mind off unnecessary worries.

So, what keeps you sane these days?